7 Dating Mistakes That Are Causing You To Fail With Women
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If you can get a woman to go with you on a date, you are already on the road to success. She wouldn’t go out with you if she is not interested.
It then becomes your job as a man to lead her through the dating process and finally close the deal.
The problem these days is that men make mistakes after mistakes while dating. These mistakes don’t just stop the progress from step to step, but actually pushes women down the steps!
This is why if a girl really means so much to you (even though she is not your girlfriend…), you want to avoid the same dating mistakes people make time after time.
What mistakes am I talking about?
Mistake #1 – Thinking you need to be good looking
Guys don’t need to be handsome to hook up with hot women.
This is not a myth. You only need to take a stroll down a busy mall to observe that many hot women have boyfriends who do not meet the standards of what you think is handsome.
Not being good looking is not what is screwing up your dating life. The BELIEF that you need to be good looking to have a chance is what’s sending your hopes down the doldrums.
Because when you have that belief inside your head, you send a signal to everyone around you that you are not a confident man who is comfortable with himself. This indicates that you are not an alpha male and is nowhere close to being one.
And no. People don’t need to interact with you to know how insecure you are.
The sooner you accept that good looks is not a requirement of women no matter how hot they are, the sooner you become more attractive than you already are.
Mistake #2 – Telling her how much she means to you
There’s no harm telling your girlfriend how much she means to you. It could actually result in a hot night under the sheets 😀
But when a woman is not yet your girlfriend and does not feel any emotional attraction to you, telling her how much you love her is really creepy.
It doesn’t matter how real your feelings are. It doesn’t even matter if she is the most beautiful girl you have ever seen.
What matters is that she has yet to feel emotionally connected to you. She is simply not ready.
By putting your feelings on a plate for her, the probable thing that will happen is that she will push the plate away… or ask a waiter to remove it.
You will be surprised…
Many modern women are not looking for long term relationships. They might get into a relationship without thinking about the long term, and eventually considers it after spending some time with her boyfriend. But that is a big “might”.
Confessing your feeling so early only puts pressure on her to make a long term commitment. A commitment that she is not ready to make so early.
Mistake #3 -Complimenting beauty
She might have flawless skin or a body to die for.
She knows it.
And if you communicate to her that you are attracted to her for her physique by complimenting her on it, it really does not do you any favors so early on.
A beautiful woman probably have weirdos and strangers telling her how hot she is everyday. This makes her long for someone who would like her for who she is inside.
This is why complimenting her on her beauty could easily categorize you as just another loser she runs into everyday.
Very often, women bait men into complimenting them. Don’t fall for it.
If you have to send some compliments, make sure they are about her personality or character.
Mistake #4 – Showering her with gifts
I remember a time when I went out with someone I met on an online dating site. And when she showed up she was dragging a huge teddy bear behind her. It turned out that she met another suitor who chatted her up online before our meetup.
Later while we got more comfortable with each other, we laughed over the guy who gave her that teddy bear. In that interaction, we agreed that he never stood a chance even though the exact words were not spoken. She was at my place the next date.
So really. Showering women with gifts does not have the impact you are hoping for.
If anything, it only validates you as someone who has nothing more to offer than gifts.
An attractive lady can get men to offer gifts anytime. She don’t need that from a man she really wants to be with.
If you are lucky, it might not hurt your chances. But it does not enhance your chances too.
If you have an irresistible inner need to send gifts, you can do so on anniversaries and Valentines Days when you are actually together.
Mistake #5 – Making her the center of your life
You would think that a woman wants to be at the center of her man’s world.
That cannot be more WRONG.
You need to have your own life. You have your job to fulfil. You have your hobbies to indulge in. And you have a social life filled with good friends.
If you make a girl the center of everything you do, it really does not paint a good picture of your lifestyle.
Don’t forget that women expect their man to add value to their lives.
How then will a man be able to add any value to her life when all he does is centered around her?
She will not be able to find new experiences and meet new people.
It is very important during dating to let a woman know that you have other areas in life to attend to. And that she will not have full access to you until she is your girlfriend. She might even expect it to be that way.
So don’t put off your social activities just for a girl. Just go about life as usual and fit her into your schedule instead of building your schedule around hers.
Mistake #6 – Being boring
You don’t need to be a clown or have a bag of funny jokes. But you cannot be boring.
If you are not someone who is good with conversations, you can try balancing that out by being a little unpredictable.
A good method to overcome boredom is to go to places where both of you are not familiar with at all. This makes it interesting to both parties to explore a place together.
So it can really help if you plan ahead what you will do during a date.
- Where to meet her
- What to do after that
- Where to have dinner
- Where to go after that and how to get there
Never ever go on a date and have absolutely no idea what activities to indulge in. It is such a turn-off.
Mistake #7 – Focusing on the outcome
I’m sure the outcome you are dreaming of is to get her to your place for the night. It doesn’t matter if it really happens or not.
When you are focusing on the outcome, the things you do and the things you say can greatly affect the dynamics of the dates.
You could start making decisions that does not make the date a fun event. This will just be a downward spiral of where the date goes.
For example, you might refuse to go to a fun place because the logistics of getting her to your place becomes very challenging. Or you might refuse to take part in adventurous activities because you want to save your energy for later when you hopefully take her home. You see how outcomes can screw things up for you?
Just have fun and do not think about outcomes. You are better off that way.
You also prevent yourself from giving off those creepy vibes that make women bring up their defences. That will only make your job much more difficult.
An easy way to avoid this is to just internalize the mindset that the outcome is inevitable.