Tips For First Date – Planning
There is 1 thing that really turns off women on a date… it is acting like a clueless passenger when you are expected to be THE MAN. The first date tips will be very important to study.
Imagine that girl that you really want… She has finally found time to go out on a first date with you. In her mind, she is thinking whether you are real man, whether there will be chemistry, and whether you are someone she can look up to.
So what do most guys do when they finally land that first date?
They go out without a plan. That is just plain self-sabotage. Always know what to do next during a date. And always stick to it unless she suggest REALLY better options. Even then, sticking to your plan is still a good choice.
Think about what women want in a man. She wants to be able to relax herself and be taken away.
If you do not have a plan, you are showing that you are indecisive, cannot be trusted to lead her, putting pressure on her to DECIDE for you, not taking responsibility, etc.
And here’s the BIG one.
A part of her mind will think about how are you going to take care of her children when you are such an INDECISIVE WRECK!
So unless you are perfectly fine with having your date think of those stuff about you, it really doesn’t take a lot of effort to plan a date.
If we are talking about first date ideas here, I suggest you keep first dates short. 2-3 hours is more than enough. So in those 2-3 hours, there is only so much planning that you have to do. 2 places for activities and 1 for an optional extension is good enough.
Pick a place for a meal or coffee.
Do keep her convenience in mind. You don’t want her to travel all the way from the east to the west just to have a meal with you.
It doesn’t have to be a fancy up-market restaurant. But pick a place with good lighting so that she can be comfortable with how she looks and conducive to have a conversation without having to shout at each other. Even better if you frequent the place and can recommend what she should try out. Make small talk with the staff if you know them.
And another place for light activities after the meal.
I personally feel that movies are a bad idea. You should spend you time building attraction and making her comfortable with you. And movies eat up valuable time that you can use to do them.
A bookstore is great for the both of you to talk about topics of similar interest. She can share how she feels about them to you. Walk over to the Psychology and Romance sections. I’m sure she will pick up a book for you to bust her on. I also suggest the supermarket where you can make fun of what kind of groceries she is into.
End the first date. DO NOT stick around like a leech hoping that she will ask to go back to your place. Get that out of your mind. If there is a time constraint and no place to go, GO HOME. End the date. Don’t even think about making her love you on that first date. Be casual and nonchalant.
If situation demands it, have a good cozy place in mind for after hours.
You will do fine if you plan properly and keep it short. If you want more ready-made ideas for that important first date, check out these 300 creative ideas.