7 Deadly Sins Of Online Dating That Can Ruin Your Life Forever
The Internet is by far one of the easiest ways to approach women, and it takes care of one of the biggest fears guys have at the same time. As guys we hate getting rejected, and a rejection online is not nearly as painful as one that happens in real life.
If a girl says no to you on the Internet, it’s mostly over chat or email, so it doesn’t really carry that much of an emotional charge. Additionally, since it’s so easy and quick to meet tons of people, you can quickly move from one girl to the next without having to worry about doing anything. You can just close the chat window and move on to the next profile.
A few keystrokes or mouse clicks is usually enough.
There are several deadly sins of online dating which you absolutely must avoid, though, and I wanted to take moment to talk about them with you. These common mistakes can really hurt.
Sin #1: Obsessing over profile pictures.
It’s very tempting to think of a girl you meet online like she’s a set of images in a profile. After all, you have nothing more on her. That profile is everything.
The thing is, though, that caring too much about the pictures will cause you to discard valuable women too quickly, and you’re bound to pass on girls you’d really like if you took the time to contact her, so…
…don’t judge a girl by her photos.
A quality girlfriend is more than just good looks. Even if you are someone obsessed with looks, a photo does not really show you how attractive someone is. There are always those 50/50 cases which you won’t be able to tell a gorgeous woman from just simple photos taken from a smart phone.
I can tell you with certainty that sometimes a woman is many times more beautiful than her pictures. The problem is that the same thing can be said in reverse order.
Sin #2: Obsessing over details in the profile.
I can’t even tell you how many guys read at a list of books or movies a girl has listed in her profile and base their decision to contact her or not based on that.
Now, do you really think that the value of a person is can be determined based on what she reads or watches?
Get over these details. They could be just something that came into her mind when a girl was writing it. It might not be such a big issue at all. For example, a girl may smoke once in a blue moon due to socializing. But she declared that she is a casual smoker just to be truthful in her profile. This can give you the wrong impression about her. You won’t really know until you chat her up to find out.
Saying that, do write a good text profile for yourself.
Sin #3: Going crazy about her too soon.
Sure, you’ve met online. Sure, your first point of contact might have been a dating profile followed by a private message in your inbox, but that’s definitely not where it ends.
It’s not a very good idea to start fantasizing about someone based on what you’ve learned about them on a dating site.
Let me put it this way:
Nothing is really going to happen until the two of you meet, so take the profile and the smileys in the char window with a pinch of salt.
Sin #4: Ignoring the profile completely.
So, you shouldn’t stress too much about the profile. It doesn’t mean, however, that you should ignore it completely. A woman’s dating profile will tell you a lot about who she is, and you should definitely take the time to figure its tone.
Look at it in general terms and try to determine who that person is. And if someone is hot but makes no effort to tell you more about herself in the profile, it tells you a lot about how she values suitors and how she is approaching this. She probably don’t deserve your attention unless you can determine that she is your soulmate just from her bikini selfies.
Sin # 5: Posting terrible photos.
The photos in your profile represent you and who you are, so make sure they are as good as you can get them. You want to present the best version of yourself to others. At least this shows prospects your potential.
Go ahead and get together with a photographer or a friend who likes taking snaps and have him do you a little “home made” photo shoot. Make sure it looks good and post it.
(Also, be sure you update your photos frequently.)
Sin #6: Being tired of dating.
Dating and meeting women should be a fun thing for you. Unfortunately, after you’ve done it for a while, it’s very easy to decide that you’re sick and tired of it, and rush into something just because you think you need a relationship.
Don’t settle for someone just because you’ve lost your patience.
If you get involved with a wrong person, it’ll be much harder to get out of it, than it is now to keep looking for someone. Amen.
Sin #7: Sending form messages.
The last thing you want to do is make a girl feel like she’s someone who doesn’t deserve a little of your time and effort, but that’s exactly the nonverbal message you send when all you do is copy and paste the same note to 27 women.
Extra Sin #8: Meeting too soon.
If you meet someone online, the first thing you do after you check them out is send them a message.
When they get back to you, that’s the first step. Then, if the two of you decide to stay in touch, you might send more emails, text messages and other forms of communication through the dating portal.
Then, if everything goes well, you spend some time on the phone, and then, only then you meet.
Never meet with someone you’ve never talked to.
You really don’t know what’s going to happen. A quick phone call will help you get to know one another even better, and will tell you what to expect from a meeting.
So, again, first you talk on the phone, then you meet. Not the other way around.
These are some of the most common sins I’ve seen guys make when they are out to meet someone online. Keep them in mind, and you’ll be way ahead of the pack.