The Real Pros And Cons Of Online Dating
I expected online dating to eventually become a dating activity that’s no longer taboo. But whether it is a good sign or not, finding dates via the internet has gained mass acceptance sooner than I’d imagined.
These days, it’s not a radical thought to think that people spend more time socializing online than in the real world. So addicted are we to social networks and instant messaging that few people can hardly spend 5 minutes without glancing over their mobile screens to see if there are any notifications.
The internet and mobile technological phenomenon is taking place… and so has the dating landscape.
If you somehow still cannot get over yourself in trying to find a suitable partner online, either you are thinking too much in your head, or you must have been born in the seventies or earlier.
And if you are finally ready to take the plunge, or at the tipping point of joining a paid dating site, let’s just go over some of the main pros and cons of online dating.
It genuinely works
In the late 1990s and early 2000s, you wouldn’t look like a fool if you slag off dating website as being a marketplace for ugly dateless singles. In fact, maybe even those who have never tried it will agree with you just so as to appear “dignified”.
But since the 2010s, more than 50% of couples getting married in developed countries met online.
That’s a striking statistic. And I’m sure it has something to do with the way kids are growing up with technology these days.
Less social pressure
No longer will you experience the magnitude of approach anxiety you feel at a bar. You friends will not be there to laugh at you when you fail. And a woman will not be able to definitively reject you based on the energy you carry.
You no longer have to guess what a girl’s interest are, what’s her age, and whether she has a boyfriend. You can find out all these little details in her dating profile.
With online dating, you can discreetly send messages to any woman you fancy and have no fear of being judged by your social circle.
You also don’t have to think on your feet to come up with conversation rebuttals and comebacks. Emailing and texting give you ample time to come up with slick alpha male responses. Even in chat rooms, you will have more time to work that conceiving mind of yours.
The lesser pressure also helps you to think more clearly.
No longer will you have to restrict your social circle to your closest friends and colleagues. You no longer have to depend on them bring new women into social gathering in order to meet someone new.
Make sure you write an interesting cover story and use good profile pictures.
The world is now your oyster
You can search and filter out women who you find attractive, have similar interest as you, a suitable age, similar aspirations, passion, etc.
And all these information is laid down for you on a plate. Saving you from the expenses incurred on fine dining on bind dates, and the time you can waste on 1 woman who may or may not like you.
Since the power of filtered search is on your fingertips, do make it work for you. Don’t settle for someone who does not meet your standards.
No more guess work on availability
Don’t you just loathe it when whoever you meet, whether it’s at work or play, who is of some quality are always in a relationship of some sort? What a waste of time.
Women you meet on dating sites are either single, or ready to leave their current relationships. Otherwise they are really in the wrong place and have nothing better to do with their time.
You can expect people on these sites to meet the most important criteria of being single and available.
The even better part is that due to the efficiency of online dating, singles don’t usually stay on the site for very long. At the same time, more and more singles are joining the sites to find their partners. This means that there will never be a lack of targets for your prospecting.
You are getting airtime 24 hours a day
Even when you are in the office or sleeping at home, your dating profile will be displayed to women who are searching for someone like you. That’s how efficient the system is with giving you exposure.
You could very well wake up each day to a handful of new leads everyday. And one of those might just check all the boxes in your checklist.
Women will actually approach you
This is something that you almost never see in real life.
But because of the lack of social pressure, women are not afraid to approach you to start a conversation if they are interested in you.
This sure make the job of finding a partner that less intimidating.
And let’s admit it. If she is the one that approaches you, you have a pretty good chance of closing the deal. The question now is whether she meets your standards.
Online scammers are rampant in the world of dating. Because victims who are emotionally attached are easier prey, an online or mobile dating platform is one of the most efficient ways to sieve out victims on a mass scale.
You are going to run into fake attractive profiles and images who request for money. Or affiliate marketers who want you to join a video site. Then there are those who will rope you in emotionally and reach for your wallet when you are most vulnerable.
But there is an easy method to avoid all these bad guys.
If something is too good to be true, it probably is. Just block them with you encounter them.
Competition from other men
Make no mistake about it. There WILL be a huge number of men vying for the most popular profiles. And you will have to be on your best in order to reel in the most beautiful women.
The silver lining is that this is a HUGE market of single ladies. There is probably enough for everyone.
There are costs to incur
There are free online dating communities that you can join.
But because they are free, you can expect to find even more competition and scammers in those places.
I suggest that if you really want to give this a try, go with a site that has premium features for paid members. By buying a short term subscription, you get a clear edge over other men who are too thrifty to spend a few bucks.
You get more exposure on your profile, and you will be able to use premium contact features too.
It can cost about $50 a month. You can also expect discounts if you sign up for a few month straight away. And you should be able to cancel your subscription at any time.
Anyway, what’s $50 these days. It’s a small price to pay for the fun you are going to get. You probably spent more than that on your last date… and it didn’t get you anywhere with the girl.
Trust me. Going with paid dating sites is worth the money.
Online profiles don’t always translate to the real deal in real life
Women don’t have to go through a lie detector test when writing their profiles. This means that they can pretty much declare whatever they want and live it like it is reality in the virtual world.
They can also upload fake photos to trick you or strategically taken photos to mislead you.
You never know what you are going to get.
From my experience, the women I meet online are often pretty honest. Maybe I have a flair for selecting dates. I don’t know. But I won’t be surprised if I meet someone one day who is not the person in the picture.
This is a risk that you might have to take. Anyway, should this happen, all you’ve got to lose is a few hours of your time. On the bright side, you could make a good friend…
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