Speed Dating –7 Easy Tips To Get More Dates Than You Can Handle
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Man and women think differently about speed dating.
Guys usually take it very seriously, while women do it mostly for fun. We stress out hoping we’re going to find a soul mate, and what they do is get together and go to get a kick out of it. Some might be serious is looking for a long term partner. But most of the time, they are serial daters who never find someone to commit to after meeting hundreds of single men in these events.
This is exactly why it can be difficult to begin a good relationship that way. The priorities seem to be completely different here. And you cannot put the blame on women as they have themselves to loo after.
Speed dating is an amazing way to meet dozens of women very quickly. You have to remember, however, that the only goal you have is impress the girl enough for her to request your contact details. The ultimate goal at such events is to get to the second date.
That’s it. Nothing more.
You have a very limited amount of time in which you need to make an impression (usually 5 minutes) and there’s no point in trying to cover your entire life story in that time. You can do that later if you want to. For now, just stay focused on the goal.
Here are some more pointers for you. Keep them in mind next time you go, and you’ll have much better success.
1. Put some thought into how you look.
I can guarantee that the women you’re going to meet have put in enough effort to look good, so you definitely don’t want to wear a stained T-shirt that smells like yesterday’s french fries.
You might be thinking that you want women to like you for who you are. So you insist on wearing that food-stained shirt you have been wearing for the last 5 days. That’s really not the way to approach this. You want to present your best version of yourself visually so that you are not written off before a girl even talked to you. You can still let her know what you are all about during conversation.
Of course, you don’t have to wear a suit, either. Just make sure you dress with style.
2. Forget the usual.
I am sure you realize that there are anywhere between 10 and 30 people representing each sex at a speed dating event. What do you think happens when you’re placed towards the end of the line and you don’t have anything original to talk about with the girl?
She ends up telling 30 people in one night where she’s from, what she likes for dinner and what her major is.
This can be agonizing.
Whatever you do, come up with a question or opener that is unique to you. Think of something that no one else is likely to use, and you’ll instantly distinguish yourself from the crowd.
This is where your personality and communication skills are put to the test. If you can’t even make yourself interesting for 5 minutes of your life for something that matters (her), what are the odds that you will be a fun person to be with once you get together? Being bold is much better than being boring.
3. Don’t talk about anything you don’t want to talk about.
Sometimes the 5 minute limit can be very stressful. You feel rushed and you want to come up with something… anything to say, so…
I want you to remember that just as you normally wouldn’t mention some things to a girl at a regular date, you shouldn’t do that here, either.
It really isn’t important for her to know that you’re sacked last week, and had to move back in with your parents for a while. She doesn’t need to know you sucked at sports or failed math in college. And that fascinating new conspiracy theory you read about last night on Wikipedia is not going to get you anywhere.
You’re there to have fun. There’s going to come a time and a place when telling her those things will be a good idea, but it sure isn’t now. You only have a few minutes to make yourself an attractive proposition. Make the full use of the time available.
Keep in mind to present yourself and your life in a positive light. Everyone have skeletons in their closets. So does she. This is just not the time to reveal them.
Again, you must stay focused on the goal, which is getting that phone number from her.
4. Give her (a bit of) a hard time.
Don’t be afraid of her and tease her sometimes. Remember that it’s as monotonous for her to keep talking about the same things over and over, as it is for you, so…
…be sure to think of unique questions that will lead the conversation in a direction no one else took it. Send mixed signals to spice up the tension and intrigue. Always try to give her something to laugh or think about.
When every other men she has met at the event are talking to her like an interview, it would make you memorable if you ask questions and talk about topics that does not resemble an interview questionnaire.
5. Don’t ask her to meet after.
There’s a very specific way this works.
She has a sheet and you have a sheet. If both of you check off YES next to each other’s names, you’ll get the contact details, so…
…don’t ask her for any, and never suggest you should meet later. You’ll come across as needy and desperate.
6. It’s not school time anymore.
You don’t have to race off just because your time is up and the bell rang. This is a good opportunity that you are in control of your life.
Even if your time is up, be sure you allow her to finish her sentence and end the conversation politely.
You don’t want to stop her in mid-sentence just because you feel an urge to move on. Remember, she’s a person just like you are, and she appreciates nice gestures.
7. Understand how well you did.
This is extremely important. Just like you evaluate every important situation in life, be sure you take a little time to think about what you did well, and what went wrong after every speed date.
This will allow you to improve. It’ll also let you polish your skills and strategy in case you want to do it again later… and enjoy even more success.
There you are. These tips are tried and tested. They work.
Try them and you’ll have more fun and better results. Guaranteed.