5 Reasons Dating Sites Don’t Work And What To Do Instead…
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If you ask around, people will tell you, that if you want to meet someone on the Internet, what you have to do is join a few dating sites. Why exert yourself all over the place when you can flirt with countless women right at the comfort of your home?
I disagree and here’s JUST ONE reason why.
While you certainly do have that option, there’s a much better way.
See, the highest quality men and women, those you’d actually want to have a relationship with don’t hang out at those sites.
They don’t have to. Their actual social life already takes up a huge chunk of their free time. The last thing they want to do after a night of partying is to get online just to check for messages from strangers.
Let me ask you this:
Do you think a good looking, intelligent person is going to go and sign up for dating websites to find someone to date?
Of course not. Why?
Because they’re going to be way too busy meeting other people. That is more than enough to fill up their personal schedules.
That’s just how it is. There are a lot of women and men using dating sites, but those you do want to be with generally don’t go there. They are higher quality and already have a pool of quality suitors to choose from.
They meet people at work, in parks, in libraries.
They meet people organically.
So, do you need online dating sites? Of course not. Again, there’s a much better way. Before I tell you about it, however, I need to drive a few points home for you.
1) The internet is HUGE and dating portals limit you.
There are very many places where people hang out online, just like there are many of those places in “the real world”. You can meet them in social networking sites (such as Facebook and Twitter, for example.) You can meet them as they comment on their favorite blogs, you can meet them in chat rooms, video hangouts or forums…
The sky is the limit.
You really don’t want to limit yourself to any particular type of website. The online world is way too big for that. You really don’t have to settle for desperate men and women you’re going to encounter at dating and relationship sites.
Sure, you could say that you could join dating portals and also look at those places I mentioned. This is a good idea, but again, if you consider the quality of people you’re going to meet (desperate, looking for love, people who’ve been around for the past 10 years because they just can’t meet anyone interesting enough) you’re going to realize that it’s just not worth it.
Look out for those serial daters who keep dating different non-stop and continues to do that even when they meet someone they like. It is like an addiction they cannot shake off.
2) People’s relationship status doesn’t mater.
A lot of people join dating communities because they make it easy to find other singles.
The truth is, that no matter what a person’s relationship status is, as long as they’re not married, they’re perfectly good to approach.
After all, you never know if they’re truly happy in their current relationship, and If, after you talk to someone, you both think you’re a better match, you’re doing them a favor. That’s how you contribute to the greater good.
Understanding this opens a whole new realm of possibilities for you. You simply approach whoever you want (as long as they’re not married, of course) and let them make a decision.
Sure, relationship sites might list people who are single, but it really doesn’t matter, does it?
3) Many more ways to meet women.
With a dating site, everything is pretty cut and dry.
You take a look at a profile, send someone a message, they reply to you, and you’re on. This is even when you don’t really know if the dating profile is genuine or not.
What would happen if you two met on YouTube, for example? What if you connect because of a video one of you created?
Then, that whole relationship starts in a very organic, healthy way. Much like in the real world.
Sure, you didn’t come there to meet each other, but that’s the beauty of it.
Think about it this way: you don’t really go to a bar to meet people. You go there to hang out with your friends, or have a drink alone.
If you happen to meet someone interesting, you approach them.
Again, not what you came for, but it just happened. You’re not desperately looking for love. You’re out there having fun, and that’s the way it’s supposed to be. It’s a little more “magical” too.
4) You don’t need to get moderated.
The most popular dating portals out there are very highly moderated, and the people who do it, administrators and moderators, are the ones who decide what happens to you inside the site.
They can limit your account, or even completely shut it down as they please. I am sure you don’t want someone closing your account (and potentially tossing a lot of your hard work down the drain) because you broke a silly rule, do you?
Those webmaster manage so many members that they would not even flinch to ban someone they don’t like. At least in real life, if something like that happens to you, you are able to fight back.
5) The people there are desperate.
When you get online to find a partner, you’re looking for someone who’s going to be great. You want someone to share your life with…
…not someone who’s willing to settle for anyone.
I want you to take a moment to think about who joins dating services.
People who don’t know how to get a date, those who’re just on the lookout to find someone they can hook up with for a one night stand, and individuals with very low self esteem.
Don’t get me wrong. I am positive there are great people on there. The problem is, though, that you’re going to have to look much harder to find them, than you would if you just steered clear of those sites in general.
Don’t join those sites.
Again, there’s a better way to do this, and that’s finding someone you like anywhere on the internet and then getting in touch with them.
It’s easy to do. Just try it.